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Success or Failure: Perspective, Beliefs and Persistence

Success or Failure: Perspective, Beliefs and Persistence

Change your beliefs = change your results!

All failure begins this way:
People start out with high hopes about fulfilling their dreams, their life purpose, being successful, becoming balanced, happy and fulfilled, becoming wealthy,etc….., but when their perception of their circumstances suggests a lesser outcome is more likely (perhaps  an unexpected obstacle arises), their reaction becomes the initial seed of failure. This process destroys the dreams of countless people.  One of the myriad benefits of getting life purpose coaching or Money Mastery coaching is that the coach will help you to see the obstacles for what they are and hold you accountable to pursuing and fulfilling the dreams or intentions you initially brought to your coach.
Take a look at how this process works:
1. We all have two parts in our thinking: One is our dream or goal, and the second is the belief (conscious or subconscious limiting belief) that it might not ever happen. This is where most people start out.  This is like driving with the parking brake on- the parking brake makes it extremely difficult to move forward much less achieve acceleration or transformation.  It takes tremendous effort on the engine’s part, consumes a tremendous amount of fuel in order to move forward AND it’s highly stressful and will create damage.  In this analogy, we can all see that it makes no sense to operate a car this way.  Yet, many of us do attempt to operate our lives and our businesses this way and we wonder why we don’t succeed or why we can’t do everything needed to succeed.  We wonder why our spiritual, personal, and economic growth is slow or difficult.  So often it’s a case of looking at only half of the equation (the doing half) and forgetting the other half: WHO/HOW you have to BE to succeed.

2. Next, something begins to spark or inspire a person to take action on their dream, their life purpose, or their mission. Yet, not having a full understanding of the Laws of Success, they may not be aware of or receptive to the changes, the personal and spiritual growth required to realize their dream outcome.  Many individuals are not open to growth and change; this shows up as resistance.

3. Their subconscious may manifest an obstacle to keep them from experiencing anything “new” – a pre-requisite for moving forward.  This new challenge is perceived as a point of failure.
It is at this point in a person’s journey where moving forward becomes too painful or fearful, and a person usually chooses to stay “safe”, to remain in the realm of what they’ve known and are comfortable with.  This is known as one’s comfort zone. Being willing to move out of one’s comfort zone allows one to move forward, see the bigger win they are hoping for, and move into the growth and change necessary!
For any kind of change to occur, some sort of shift is necessary. Your beliefs control your perception of everything in your world, which in turn creates your reality. If you want to change your results, you must change your beliefs AND shift your perception. Until you shift your perception and your beliefs, you will continue to make choices that keep you where you are.  Without such a shift, you will likely feel defeated and give up on your dreams.
In theory, it’s really simple … but in practice, many people find it difficult because they really don’t understand all beliefs are nothing but illusions anyway. These illusions are so strong people think that they are real and they lack the knowledge, training or guidance to transform their beliefs.
The power of belief is astounding. I encourage you to study its mysteries for yourself and see what changes you truly do have the power to make.  Want some help?  I have powerful graceful tools to facilitate your transformation.  Contact me: kamila@MoneyMastery.us


Success, Happiness, Progress and your conscious mind, and your unconscious or subconscious mind

Success, Happiness, Progress and your conscious mind, and your unconscious or subconscious mind

Do you ever return to your business after attending a seminar, reading a book, listening to a CD, or  pumped up full with fresh information and inspiration, only to never apply it?  You may have blamed yourself for the lack of follow through.  In fact, the part of your brain that GATHERS information is different from the part that APPLIES new knowledge and the two were not working together.  In fact, they are often at cross-purposes to each other and you may be entirely unaware of this.  They may be at total loggerheads.  There may be intense internal conflicts hampering your progress and thwarting your success.  It’s all too common!

Your conscious mind is responsible for choosing what you want. Your subconscious mind is responsible for your perceptions and behavior. You may need to reprogram your subconscious to think and behave in ways that support what you want, believe in those things, and be willing and able to work toward what you want.  Without this reprogramming, your forward progress, about which you were so inspired, will be hampered by internal conflicts between what your subconscious believes is possible and what your conscious mind wants to happen.

Here are three things you can do to start reconditioning your subconscious:

1. Take action every morning. Start your day with FEELING how you want your life and your business to be- how will it feel when it’s the way you want it to be?  Allow yourself to remain in that feeling. Meditate on your visions and goals for your business and life.  This is a first step in The Law of Attraction.

2. Focus on what you’re grateful for. By combining your feelings of gratitude along with visualizations in the morning, your brain will release chemicals which will begin to retrain your subconscious mind to think differently.

3. Emotionalize your success. Act as if you are already at the level of success that you want to achieve. By putting yourself in those shoes, you will think and behave differently… which will lead to changes in your perception ad in your behavior… and more importantly… will lead to action.

These are just the beginning steps to change from the inside out in order for your  world to change. It is actually a slow process to change the subconscious in this way so don’t expect it to happen fast.  Your neurology has to change; new neural pathways in the brain must be forged and deepened by repetition or intensity.  If you want fast, you’ll need the help of a professional. My clients shift rapidly with the help of  tools for accelerated transformation.  Read About Me page for more info.

What you believe about money, income, debt, abundance, your potential,….. is RIGHT.

What you believe about money, income, debt, abundance, your potential,….. is RIGHT.

There’s an old adage that says, “Whether you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you’re right.” We convince ourselves of our futures before we take the actions that make them real. This is not news to the golfer who visualizes the ball dropping into the cup before the swing, or the artist who sees the completed painting before lifting a brush.

This is also the underlying feature of everything from Positive Psychology to “The Secret,” and the Law of Attraction, and it works on us every day. When we convince ourselves that everything is happening to us, and we’re nothing but a thistle-seed on the breeze of life, that becomes our experience. Our experience and our belief becomes reinforced as we prepare ourselves for that future, expect that future, and yes, take precisely the action steps that will lead to that future.

If everyone says “we’re in a recession,” we will make it so. If we constantly say the economy is bad, we will make it so. I’m not saying that we should ignore reality by any means, but that we look beyond the hand that we’re dealt, to the game we’re in. Playing a lousy hand well will take you further than playing a great hand badly. If we decide to make reality work, we can make reality work.

It is very difficult to observe the world around us, interpret from a defeatist position, and then promote a successful, winning perspective. The change has to start at the very beginning of this process. If we want to improve our situations, we need to do this from a position where we have power and control. To say “I can’t do xyz because the economy is bad,” is a total surrender to powerlessness. Turning this around starts with language shifts completely within our power.

First, the economy isn’t “bad.” The economy is going through corrections, adjustments, upheaval, or any of the other thousand descriptions that don’t include a value judgment definition.
Einstein said it is necessary to apply different thinking to solve the problems than the thinking that created the situation. Now you think, “how am I going to get past this?” We move from victim to problem solver just by shifting our internal dialogue. First we catch ourselves, then we interrupt the pattern, then we replace the victim language with the problem solver language. Difficult at first, but easier and easier with practice until you no longer even have to think about it. Success, now, is going to be about better problem solving, more creativity, more innovation.

Create Time Abundance in your business and in your life

Create Time Abundance in your business and in your life

I write about our relationship with money, Money Mastery, and how it interrelates with our life purpose, our happiness, fulfillment, and enjoyment of life as well as our success and self-expression.

I believe our relationship with time is at the core of what allows us to be successful, fulfilled and living our deepest purpose. Many of us get stuck in time-related traps. We struggle with too many things on our to-do list. We get overwhelmed in our work. And we can’t find time for our most important priorities and for living our purpose.

When we are able to be fully present and engaged with what moves our lives and businesses towards our desired destination, magic happens:

· We feel alive
· We create unimaginable prosperity
· We feel open to possibility
· Even effort feels effortless

There is one person that really fully embodies this way of being: Satyen Raja.

So I want to share with you an opportunity to learn from Satyen Raja about Time Mastery and Time Abundance. It won’t cost you a cent! That’s right; it’s free! And it’s at lunchtime…..does that make it a free lunch? And you don’t have to go anywhere; it’s a teleclass offered by Bill Baren. You may recall that I recommended his Time Mastery Telesummit last year.
You’ll walk away from this call having a deep knowing of what Time Abundance truly is – as simple and powerful as that.

So, are you ready to create Time Abundance in your business and in your life? If so, Register for this rare interview with Satyen Raja on being a master of your time here: http://www.billbaren.com/interview/satyen.html
It will not cost you anything to participate. Your only investment is your time.

This ONE-TIME FREE TeleExperience takes place on Thursday, April 2nd at 12 noon Pacific Time/3:00pm Eastern Time.

I hope you can make it live on the call. If not, they’ll be sending out the recording to all who registered.

Co-creating your relationship with money

Co-creating your relationship with money

When I am in a relationship or desiring to be, I not only think about what kind of man I want to be in a relationship with and how I want that relationship to be; I also think about who I must be and how I must be in order to co-create the relationship and uphold my half of that relationship.

My friend and colleague, Morgana Rae, The Charmed Life Coach, coaches folks on how to become a Money Magnet and talks about your Money Honey, creating the relationship you want with your money as though it were a romance with a romantic partner.
How would/do you treat such a partner?

One of my mentors, David Neagle, talks about success not in terms of what you have to do to be successful, but rather WHO you have to BE in order to be successful.
I was so struck the first time I heard David say this! I decided this is true across the board whether you’re wanting to be successful with relationships with people, with money, or with your work. I have been internalizing this ever since!

Another of my mentors, Deborah Price, Founder of The Money Coaching Institute, started a new blog (see my blogroll) to speak to the fear and pain that is circulating in our society right now. She says:”Using relationships as the metaphor, begin to think in terms of what kind of money relationship you are seeking. If you were to place an ad in the personal column seeking a partner, you would want to have a pretty clear idea of what it is you are looking for before you placed your ad. Otherwise, you’re not likely to receive what you’re hoping for. The clearer you are, the more likely you can magnetize anything in your life, be it relationship with a person, a job or money. In this case, it is important to be clear about what kind of relationship you desire to have with money. Write a personal ad that addresses your intention. Here’s an example:
“Spiritual being seeking a relationship with money that is conscious, loving, trustworthy, fulfilling, co-creative and prosperous. I am ready to receive this relationship into my life and to embrace this prosperity with care and attention so that together we may realize our greatest good.”

Now, write your own statement of what it is you desire in your relationship with money. When you are done, repeat the following words:
“I am ready and willing to receive my perfect relationship with money and finances into my life with grace and gratitude. I consider it done and so it is. Amen. ”

Let me know how it goes.

The Inside Out Approach

The Inside Out Approach

Here’s a bit more from Stephen Covey on the The Inside Out Approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness:

Start first with self, the inside part: with your paradigms, your character, and your motives.

The Inside Out Approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves precedes making and keeping promises to others. It says that its futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve our relationships with others before improving ourselves. You can’t be successful with others if you haven’t paid the price of success with yourself. When I found this to be quite true in my own life, I made some changes: focusing more on honoring my agreements with myself.

Inside-out is a process- a continuing process of renewal based on the natural laws that govern human growth and progress. It’s an upward spiral of growth that leads to progressively higher forms of responsible independence and effective interdependence.

There are two ways to put ourselves in control of our lives immediately. We can make a promise and keep it. Or, we can set a goal and work to achieve it. As we make and keep commitments, we begin to establish an inner integrity that gives us the awareness of self-control and the courage and strength to accept more of the responsibility for our own lives. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others,little by little, our honor becomes more powerful than our moods in determining our behavior.

Please see my post from 1/23/09 on Habits, Character and Success
for more on this topic.