Freedom from Limiting Beliefs

Freedom from Limiting Beliefs

Here’s the process in a nutshell:

Step 1 Identify the limiting beliefs that are holding
you back.
Step 2 Create new empowering replacement beliefs.
Step 3 Remove the limiting belief file from your
subconscious mind.
Step 4 Release the ‘emotional glue’ that surrounds and
compounds your limiting belief.
Step 5 Install your new positive belief in your
subconscious mind.
Step 6 Strengthen your new beliefs with simple exercises.

Make sure the ones you hold on to are aligned to your
visions and dreams and the magnificent truth of who
you are.

It’s not rocket science, but it is difficult to do alone or without great tools. My work with clients draws on several modalities and allows them to clear old beliefs at the subconscious level for real and lasting change and creates new neural pathways for the new beliefs and the behaviors that go along with them. It’s very liberating and exhilarating. Some may think this odd, but it’s my idea of a great time. After decades of working on myself, I decided to work on others as well. It’s equally fun and exhilarating! Accelerated change is thrilling. If you feel the same, leave a comment or call me to schedule a session.

THE SECRET TO INCREASING YOUR INCOME MORE EASILY, Part 4

THE SECRET TO INCREASING YOUR INCOME MORE EASILY, Part 4

Face your fears
They are there to make your stronger, more agile and a better player. They show up as information to guide you to a place that in an untapped well of energy. Once you master this, nothing can stop you. Nothing. No challenge that shows up will daunt you. It is one of the keys to successful leadership and self-mastery.
Your relationship with money is as real as any relationship. So think about it. When you are being yourself, loving yourself, proud of yourself, you attract a real sustainable, sensational relationship. If you are out there ‘fishing’, being what you think will attract another, being desperate and doing whatever it takes, what usually happens to the relationship when the real you comes to the surface? Or what do you have to do to keep the relationship you attracted when you were out of integrity with yourself? And how exhausting and distracting is that?

It is the same thing in business and goes back to the point about knowing who you really are. And THIS is what you market. Look at all the great companies you know or love-there is an identifiable person who most people really respect that draws the client or the customer.

This is the truest power there is. Once you have rediscovered the place you came from, your vulnerability, nothing can ever take your power again. Look at a child-could hey be more vulnerable? And are not most children fearless? When you can be comfortable in being vulnerable you will have discovered your greatest source of strength. It is counterintuitive but it is real. You must have this tool in your tool belt for you to build your dreams.

How to be Happy in the Current Economic Circumstances

How to be Happy in the Current Economic Circumstances

Being happy is not a matter of chance. People who are happy have certain things in common; much of this involves the choices that they make. Much research has been done to ascertain this and make it accessible to those of us who’d like to be a little or a lot happier.

9 Choices of Extremely Happy People

• an active intention to be happy (this may cause many people to say/think “DUH!” however, although most folks want to be happy, they don’t set an active intention to BE happy.)
• accountable for one’s thoughts, actions, feelings (having set that intention, take note of your thoughts and your actions for a month and see how many of them are actually not supporting you becoming happy/happier).
• identify what makes you happy and make that central in your life (most folks don’t actually prioritize these things to the extent that they schedule them into their lives, make them a regular part of their lives. Regard this as you would any other new habit that you want to establish for yourself: practice it daily for a month, get an accountability buddy to check-in with about whether you’re doing it, get a buddy to do it with on a regular schedule).
• find meaning in the face of tragedy or adversity (happy people, without being pollyannas, look for the lesson or the gift in difficult circumstances. This often leads them to greater self-knowledge, greater sense of family or community, greater sense of their own values and priorities.)
• be flexible and open to life’s many options (you may’ve noticed that life rarely goes according to our plans yet, to the extent that we can roll with it, it works out ok- sometimes better than our plans. This attitude is key to discovering and fulfilling one’s life purpose. I’ve written some posts about this and the connection to happiness and making more money.)
• appreciate one’s life and the people in it (this is another one that may prompt the “DUH!” response because it’s so obvious, yet, people do not do this to the degree that they could)
• give unceasingly without expectation of a return (research shows that people who have and practice a generosity of spirit have a much greater level of satisfaction and fulfillment in their lives. Volunteerism is actually on the rise in our culture.)
• be truthful with yourself and with others (it’d be pretty difficult to be happy if you’re deceiving yourself or others. It just feels so awful. The truth, however painful initially, always feels better and affords the opportunity to connect with yourself and others that wouldn’t exist otherwise.)

Given the extreme degree of stress and suffering over current economic conditions, I will write more on this topic because we can always choose our response to circumstances that seem out of our control. As Swami Satchidananda said “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” How many unhappy surfers have you seen?

What are the qualities of happiness that don’t depend on changing circumstances?  You, knowing yourself, enjoying your Self, enjoying being alive, being as alive as possible, appreciating what is, acceptance, self-acceptance,….. keep the list going.

How to use NLP to Get Out of Debt

How to use NLP to Get Out of Debt

As you’re probably already aware, you can think of people as having a conscious mind & an unconscious mind. If there’s anything you’ve been trying to change (eg. solve a problem, make a change, achieve a goal), but you just haven’t seemed to be able to do it until now, you can assume that your unconscious holds the key.

But how can you gain access to your deep unconscious wisdom?

NLP offers a variety of techniques for doing this, many of them involving language. Language generation is an unconscious skill: the processes you are using when you’re generating grammatical sentences are largely unconscious (the processes you are using to make sense of this article are also unconscious when you think about it.)
So how cool would it be if you could tap into these unconscious language generation processes to find solutions to your problems & get assistance towards achieving your goals?

1) Choose some goal you want to achieve, problem you
need to solve, change you’d like to make or situation
you’d like some insight into such as:

I want to get out of debt

2) Create a ’sentence stem’ taking the following general structure: “If I brought / lived with 5% more [awareness/consciousness] around/to [situation], I would…”

3) Once you’ve written your sentence stem, read it out 5
times, completing it (in writing), with 5 different
endings. Do it fast!

For example… “If I lived with 5% more awareness around my finances, I would…”

• Schedule a few hours to sort out all my different accounts,& put the final touches on the systems for dealing with paperwork etc.

• Schedule an hour a week & a few hours a month to really focus on my financial goals.

• Pull an “Instant Wealth” card each day, & take 5 minutes to focus on its message & generate answers to the Money-making Question it poses.

• Read Paul McKenna’s book “I Can Make Y0u Rich”

• Walk through a Chris Hall-style ‘Super-future pacing’ process around money & wealth.

4) Do this once a day for a week, & discover how quickly
you notice shifts & changes in the situation you chose
to work on.

Sometimes, very small adjustments in our state of consciousness can result in very big changes in our external experience.

from Nathaniel Branden, the author of several books on self-esteem.

Money and Happiness

Money and Happiness

Our culture holds a belief that more money is better and also that more will make you happy. Is it true? Here are a few statistics:

Americans’ average personal income has increased more than two and a half times over the past 50 years, but their happiness level has remained the same. However, rates of depression grew 10 fold!

Nearly 40% of the people on the Forbes list of wealthiest Americans are less happy than the average American.

Once personal wealth exceeds $12,000 a year, more money produces virtually no increase in happiness. Income also does not noticeably influence satisfaction with marriage, family, relationships, or ourselves. Furthermore, research has shown that while you can motivate people in the short term with external rewards, it is short-lived and people feel more passion for and derive more pleasure from doing what they freely choose and most enjoy and these will decrease when external rewards remain in effect.

A recent survey showed that, at all income levels, people think more money will definitely make them happier.

Billions of dollars are spent by advertisers each year to convince you that you’re not ok the way you are and that you need things- lots and lots of them- to make you happy. 3 hours of television will expose you to roughly 68 messages of this sort.

All of this plays into the myth of “I’ll be happy when……” Ask yourself if you find yourself saying or thinking any of these:

I’ll be happy when I have the perfect job.

I’ll be happy when I have the perfect mate.

I’ll be happy when I have the home of my dreams (or owning my home at all).

I’ll be happy when I have a baby, a family.

I’ll be happy when I have more free time.

I’ll be happy when I get recognition or acknowledgement or appreciation.

I’ll be happy when I can retire.

I’ll be happy when I lose weight.

In fact, you can be happy right now even if none of those things has or will happen<ed>.

It’s simply a matter of choice and mindset. Your choice and your mindset.

Money and Happiness pearls and gems

Money and Happiness

Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.
–Aristotle

Our business is to be happy. – His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Who is rich? He who is happy with his lot. – The Talmud

We first make our habits, and then our habits make us. – John Dryden

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
• If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.
– Maya Angelou
• The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do
not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you are in control
of your own destiny. – Dr. Albert Ellis
• We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.
– His Holiness the Dalai Lama
• The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven.
– John Milton

Appreciation and gratitude are a must if you choose to become the architect of increased
happiness and your own fulfillment. – Doc Childre

There is a vitality, a life-force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into
action…Keep the channel open. – Martha Graham

The winds of grace are always blowing, but you have to raise the sail. – Sri Ramakrishna
• There are two great days in a person’s life—the day we are born and the day we discover why.
– William Barclay
• When we learn to say a deep, passionate yes to the things that really matter, then peace begins to
settle onto our lives like golden sunlight sifting to a forest floor. – Thomas Kinkaide
• The important thing is not to think much but to love much; and so do that which best stirs you
to love. – St. Teresa
• When you follow your bliss….doors will open where you would not have thought there would be
doors; and where there wouldn’t be a door for anyone else. – Joseph Campbell
• I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who
will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve. – Albert Schweitzer

You become the average of the five people you associate with most. – Jim Rohn

Money and the Pursuit of Happiness

Money and the Pursuit of Happiness

Thomas Jefferson spoke of the inalienable right to the Pursuit of Happiness, but he used the term pursuit in a different way than it is commonly used.  Many have interpreted this literally that happiness is something to pursue, chase or hunt down.  Approached this way, it remains elusive.  Particularly so when this is combined with the belief that money, more money, stuff and more stuff will make us happy, even more will make us happier and insure that we remain happy.  Most folks who’ve tried this will attest that it didn’t yield this outcome for them.  Those who used credit cards or other forms of credit to finance their experiment will attest that the resultant stress from the debt accrued in the process made them even less happy than where they began.

In 1776, the word pursuit referred to practicing something regularly, to make a habit of it. Pursuit, in this context, actually works for happiness.  Happiness practiced becomes less elusive, more normal and regular.

I’m playing a game with 50 other people.  We’re reading the book Happy For No Reason, doing the exercises in the book, and discussing the ideas in the book and whatever arises for us in the process.  We’re taking 50 days to play this game.  The game allows everyone to win.  Winners will be Happy For No Reason- meaning they’re happy regardless of circumstances.  They’re intrinsically happy and know that their happiness isn’t tied to what happens or doesn’t happen, having or not having anything in particular.  The book has far exceeded my expectations and I’m enjoying the interaction with the group.  I’ll keep you posted.

THE SECRET TO INCREASING YOUR INCOME MORE EASILY, Part 3B

I’d say that there are different layers of purpose just as there are different layers of experience, different layers of Being, etc….
When I was quite young- maybe 10 or 12, I remember pondering my purpose and thinking that it had to do with freedom. I didn’t have the vocabulary then to articulate it as well as I can now, but I knew it had to do with finding the way to be the fullest manifestation of myself…….self-actualized, free to Be.
Now, that sense of my purpose is unchanged; I still perceive that to be my purpose, and I look for work and other opportunities in life to manifest myself and utilize my gifts as fully as possible. So, while purpose need not have a Doing layer, if it does, that layer will have to do with doing the things that cause us to feel most alive, most useful, most excited, most giving, most open to magnificence.

I think this is why career counselors and books on career/changing careers suggest that people sense back to what they enjoyed and made them feel alive and happy when they were 10. It often provides some clues or reminders about feeling alive, doing what we love, while being unencumbered by adult realities and constraints that people can then extrapolate from to find their purpose or work that they enjoy. I’ve heard and read delightful stories of people discovering their passion in this way and creating work that they love. When our work comes from this place, it doesn’t feel so much like work, there’s less struggle and frustration, and it’s much easier to be motivated, excited, creative, and inspired. As a result, this is likely to lead to us being more successful and making more money.